“I need to love you better.”
This statement is something Chad and I say to each other a lot. Love, sacrificial love, needs to be stated, but mostly it needs to be displayed. I’ve been thinking about this a lot because most of the time, I don’t really know what I mean “love you better.” How do I know it’s better than it was before? What am I going to do to make it better?
Because I love categories and lists, I’ve simplified this concept for myself. I’ve broken down my loving actions into two categories.
My definition of ordinary love are things you have to do, or are doing anyway. Like, keeping a clean house. If I were still single, I’d still want to keep a clean house. Making dinner – I’m doing it anyway, so the fact that I made an extra portion of what I was already going to make, is love, but it’s just ordinary. Yes, there is forethought and planning and the knowledge that he’ll probably be pleased and happy to have a meal ready when he gets home from work… but I didn’t necessarily go too far out of my way to do it. Washing and folding our laundry. To me, that’s love. But it’s only two extra loads of something I have to do anyway. See what I’m saying? Here is a list of a few ordinary love items:
picking up after yourself… or each other
taking our the trash
making lunch + dinner
washing and folding laundry
doing yard work
The things you don’t have to do, and wouldn’t do otherwise. I’m ashamed to say I had trouble thinking of examples of this in my own life. And so I’m challenging myself to find ways to love Chad in extraordinary ways. Because whether you’re a boy or girl, your dream isn’t to have ordinary love. You want to love and be loved in extraordinary ways. Am I right? I know Chad’s dream girl could not have been a girl who would do his laundry and make his dinner. Sure, those things are what a nice and loving wife does…
So, let’s +1 some of those Ordinary Love items to make them extraordinary and maybe add some as well…
write a love note for the lunch box
take your spouse OUT to dinner… like, a DATE!
let your spouse decorate a room [probably more for the ladies...]
throw a surprise birthday party
forfeit your favorite show for a more intimate evening in the bedroom
bring home flowers
keep a “slurge for him/her” budget… perhaps a new dress or ping pong table?
What are some ways you extraordinarily love your spouse?